Throughout an look on the Minnie Questions with Minnie Driver podcast, the Buddies alum — who began courting the Snow Patrol singer in 2013 — detailed the incident, which she mentioned went down “about 5 years in the past,” and defined why she’s in the end “grateful” that McDaid referred to as off their engagement on the time.

“So three years in, we broke up and it was actually intense,” Cox, 59, informed Driver. “We broke up in remedy. I did not realize it was coming, whether or not I ought to have or not, it was similar to we went to this therapist to speak about our boundaries — what we might and could not settle for about one another.”

“As a substitute, he simply broke up inside the first minute,” she continued. “And I used to be like, ‘What?’ And we have been engaged. And I used to be so shocked. I used to be in a lot ache.”

The actress admitted that she shouldn’t be a fan of surprises. “He is an unimaginable human being, so he wasn’t making an attempt to shock,” she defined. “He was in that a lot ache within the relationship. There was that a lot that wanted to be handled that he needed to defend himself round his coronary heart.”

Cox added, “So versus like going ‘F–k him,’ getting on this mode of anger, I leant in and I did probably the most work on myself by far. I realized the best way to reclaim my voice, boundaries. What have been my motives in life — like, what was my half on this?

For the reason that cut up helped her personally and in her relationship with McDaid, she mentioned she’s grateful that they briefly referred to as it quits.

“I am so grateful for that break-up,” Cox defined, “Once we bought again collectively it was a unique relationship, but in addition as a result of it actually taught me how I operated on the planet. What have been the issues from my childhood that I wanted? Like, whether or not it was to be adored by males or that I did not know the best way to let go to be in a relationship. To not take issues personally, ,y boundaries. I simply went into myself and I had a fantastic therapist.”

The Scream actress mentioned she continued to see the identical therapist herself.

“I saved seeing him, the one which we met on the break-up day. And it was brutal to go to his workplace after that for some time,” she recalled. “However then it was nice. And I am actually grateful a) nothing will ever damage me that dangerous once more, and b) most of all, most significantly, I fully modified.”

Cox and McDaid, 47, first started courting in fall 2013, and introduced their engagement the next June. The couple reportedly ended their engagement in November 2015, earlier than later reconciling in 2016. Whereas they’ve been collectively since, they’re nonetheless not engaged.

Throughout her dialog with Driver, Cox praised McDaid’s “bravery” to interrupt up together with her in that remedy session a number of years in the past.

“It takes lots of bravery to finish one thing that has a lot ardour, or finish something,” she defined. “Any type of relationship. It is a lot simpler simply to remain and experience issues out and make excuses, and, you realize, concern of ache is simply an excessive amount of to deal with. However as soon as you’re daring sufficient to make choices and undergo the ache, you may’t go round it. So simply undergo it, after which while you do all the pieces’s simpler.”

“I am grateful that Johnny was so daring and courageous as a result of it was life-changing for me, and I am certain for him,” she added.